Also at least my family seems to stop the abuse more now, due to fearing they lose me forever.
Hard to control a child, if it actually starts to fight back, huh?
I'm still way too lenient, most of the time, but I also know, that if I'd even hint at suggesting that they weren't giving their best or are at any fault of my misery, they'd become extremely defensive, to attacking me. The old ways pop up quickly then.
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